Good Reads: 19 February 2016

This weekend is all about logistics. We just secured the lease on a new apartment in Brooklyn, I'm starting a super duper exciting new job soon (more to come), and we're doing things like BB&B-ing (Broad City-style), couch buying, and finally, finally, finally getting settled. I even ordered that damn Glossier moisturizer I haven't tried but have wanted to forever, and a Tangle per a friend's recommendation to help me put my nervous hair twirling to better use.

Look out, world.

Logistics aside, I'm spending the weekend hanging with my niece, eating veggie BBQ (it exists, and it's amazing), and having a long overdue coffee/breakfast situation with some friends. Since the next weeks are busy, I'll probably be a little quieter on here though I'll certainly post when I can. Until then, you know the drill – Instagram for updates and maybekindasorta Snapchat. I'm obsessed with it but don't really know what the F I'm doing. Alas.

Anyway, before the hustle of moving into our new place begins, I wanted to share a few links for the week – hope you have a good one!

industry standard jeans, common good linen water, betsy & iya earrings, little arrow studio print

agree, agree, agree with this piece about judging women and their food habits. what women eat (and the way they talk) is their business. case closed. 

megan huntz sent over the most beautiful, delicate separates this week. can't wait to share these gorgeous pups.

this episode of fresh air was powerful, to say the least.

a great piece from last week on the power of "formation".

shoppers recall their first purchase at barneys (oddly captivating).

technically for teens, this witty, informative newsletter contains just enough pop culture news that i feel hip. diggin' clover.

i'd like to live in mansur gavriel's fall 2016 presentation.

me, talking coffee table books, on domino.

some street style inspiration for the win.

artist jordan grace owens shared her beautiful bungalow with me for clementine daily.

market starts this weekend. best of luck to all of my friends at capsule!

 

new additions to the design directory:

koja / leigh miller / marlow goods / vuela / agmes / fabric / nahanni arntzen


Mum & Co.

I first discovered Mum & Co. through very lovely Two Son – the Nashville boutique partially owned by James of Bleubird, which is a delight in itself.

Mum & Co.'s bags are mostly nubuck, suede, and velvet – simple, with oversized shapes. I fell hard and fast for them, and am seriously considering grabbing a Shoulder Bag. It's kind of like an elegant, thoughtful take on an everyday tote bag. And I'm obsessed.

Here's a glimpse of a few of Mum & Co.'s styles, to give you an idea of their greatness: 


Girl / Power

Maybe it's because it's an election year, and we have a powerful female for potential candidate for (almost) the first time ever. (Shirley Chisholm actually ran for the Democratic presidential nominee in 1968, if you didn't know.)

It could be the post-blizzard, all-lady congress a few weeks ago. Maybe it's my new shirt because new things are exciting and particularly so when they manage to be cute and have a strong message you believe it.

It might be the very great reaction I got from a recent Nylon piece I wrote on feminist podcasts, and those very lady-led podcasts themselves. Maybe I've just been swept into the BeyHive, or maybe it's my current binge catch-up of "Broad City", or my recent binge of season 2 of "Transparent", which makes me feel like that as a society we are very slowly getting somewhere with gender rights, female equality, and the rest.

Either way, in these first two months of the new year I've felt crazy inspired by other women, #GirlBosses, non-#GirlBosses, and gals who are just doing what they want and getting it done. It's awesome, amazing, and kind of makes me feel like I can do anything. Know why? It's because I can. (Cue Bey.) 

I hope you're in the same place as I am and are feeling equally inspired. In case you're not, may I suggest that you first blare some empowering tunes, then check out a few of the pro-lady pieces of content plus products that have inspired me as of late. I realize that there's an unnameable amount of inspiring content out there, so please send me suggestions for this and I'll continue to update:

This awesome newsletter (that I was thrilled to be included in last week) // The Canadian prime minister on why feminism matters // The 24 Hour Woman Calendar // All things Jessamyn Stanley // Companies with women are more profitable // "We are leaning in" // An informative podcast // This 11-year-old's book drive // A campaign to give female filmmakers a greater spotlight // This Elizabeth Lever print // These supportive communities: Local Creative, Girl Gift Gather, Babe Vibes, all things Rookie // This manual

Another note – and this is something that gets overlooked – but I feel very lucky to be loved by men who are equal partners, family members, and friends – and who encourage me day in and day out. Of course, that's the way it should always be, but we all know that's not the way it is for far, far, far too many women, and there's not a day that goes by that I don't thank my lucky stars for having the men in my life that I do.

Cue Bey, again. Just because.


Shopping List: Valentine's Day For The Ladies

Valentine's Day is one of those days that causes some controversy. (Using the term 'controversy' very, very lightly here.)

I'm an old, married woman which means that ultimately I'm not too bothered about it either way. Still, there are certain aspects about this "holiday" that make me squirm – the pressure to couple up, the marketing campaigns aimed to convince that it's always better to be in a pair than on your own...that sort of thing. Though the marketing and messaging around Valentine's Day can be awful for lots of reasons, let's not let that spoil our feelings about the 14th of February. 

If you approach it properly, Valentine's Day can be pretty fun – fun because it's kind of ridiculous, fun because there's candy, fun because it involves nice feelings. There's also Galentine's Day on the 13th, and let's not forget the fact that Valentine's Day itself is a good excuse to gift yourself, your girlfriends, or a loved one something sweet. 

Cue Huckberry. As you may remember from posts past, these guys are the best when it comes to gifts for gals and guys alike. Whether you're searching for a gift for yourself or your best girlfriend, here are a few of my favorite Valentine's Day gift for the ladies:


Good Reads: 29 January 2016

The snow's been gone for just a few minutes and I miss it already. I always think that if it's going to be cold, it should snow. Cold, grey weather is a little boring.

This weekend will be pretty chill. There will be some some thrifting (see below on faux fur coat thoughts), some donut eating, some new product sampling (I'm having a big moment with skincare) and some all around, generally great hanging. 

Before it begins, there was some gold on the internet this week, so maybe check out the links below before you take off. Have a good one!

feeling pretty proud of this dude and his photography work. 

best thing i read this week. this was the second best.

saw this really beautiful, interesting movie this week. if you like miranda july-ish stuff, you'll like this.

official: we run this thing.

a gorgeous pre-fall collection

score 100 for mattel. (the foot thing – how is that just now being fixed?)

excited for this short film, the mission behind it, and the mission behind this awesome project.

on the hunt for a great faux fur coat. anyone have any leads for me?

almost died over these shoes this week.

thankful for the day i started following kanye on twitter. (#waves)

bread forever.

folks in the north carolina area, go to my very talented friend's store opening party on saturday!

 

a few new additions to the designer directory: sara barner / the stell / home-work / aeron / the great lakes goods  

more by me: how to start a feminist podcast / home tour: jordan grace owens


betsy & iya's Unu Collection

On my elusive "someday" list is an idea I had a few years ago to take a boutique road trip.

A boutique road trip would be just like a regular road trip, except that it would be structured around various shops and boutiques. I'd stop by several in any given city, then move on to the next. Maybe a West Coast boutique road trip would include Mohawk General Store, Otherwild, YES, Seven Sisters, and Portland's betsy & iya (amongst many, many others). 

This trip is sadly not on the horizon, but I still like to imagine picking a piece from each store as a souvenir of my crazy fun trip. From betsy & iya, I'd have to choose a piece from their recently launched Unu Collection – which features minimalist, geometric, everyday jewelry that both blends in quietly and demands attention through its lovely, simple design. 

Nice, rgiht? Shop the full collection here, and check out their (very symmetric, very cool!) Instagram feed here.


How To Maintain Your Energy

I almost constantly feel nervous.

It's not as horrible as it sounds, though. Instead it's more like a low-level current that runs through me almost constantly. Because I have this hum of energy that vibrates through me and drives most everything I do, I probably appear more extroverted than I am.

Take speaking in crowds, for instance. I hate it, as lots of people do, but that low-level nervous energy of mine is so great that I'll force myself to make a self depreciating joke or speak first in a meeting, just to get my inner self out there. It's partly because of my fear that if I don't say something quickly or do something to make everyone feel comfortable, I may not say anything at all. 

That energy – the one that keeps my brain constantly ticking, thinking, analyzing, creating – it drives me, pushes me to work harder, meet people, tackle that next project – and it, obviously, makes me who I am. But it can be tiring. Other introverts, those of us with sensitive and active minds that require greater periods of rest, will understand.

All of this is fine and good on an everyday level, but when it comes to special days – holidays and vacations – it can be difficult. Spend a day touring a city with a group friends, attend a series of highly-social activities, or even change your diet for a few weeks, and those energy levels can start to slip. 

Luckily, as this creature of habit and homebody with a true love for travel has learned, there are ways to maintain that energy in a healthy and sane way when you're off your routine. This allows you to keep up that big energy throughout long work days, and travel successfully with friends and family alike.

Here's how it's done:

1. When possible, surround yourself with people who "get" you

There's a saying that traveling with someone for a few days will teach you more about that person than knowing them for several years. I'd say that's true, and while finding yourself in the (often professional) situation of traveling through a new city or country with strangers can be a very positive thing, when at all possible try to travel with people who know and "get" you. People who understand that after five hours of tourist-ing, you may need to be alone in your room with a book for an hour-ish. 

If the people with you on a vacation or holiday "get" your energy levels, they'll know and understand that you just need some time alone, thanks. No misunderstandings, no hurt feelings.

 

2. Take an abbreviated time out

Let's say you're visiting friends or family, or are just in the middle of a very long, taxing work day and you don't quite have the ability to go sit alone and let your brain breathe. Instead, find activities and rituals that will help you "recharge" your batteries even on a micro-level. For example, put on headphones and listen to music that chills you out, or maybe walk to a nearby coffee shop and grab a tea. Do something that will take you outside of your element, even for a moment, and you'll feel better.

 

3. Go to bed early

Don't feel the need to "take advantage" of your holiday or vacation by staying up late if that doesn't feel good for you. If you're socially or physically drained, let yourself slink off to bed to read, write, or think. Stretch, light a candle, and just hang. It'll make all the difference in the world and give you the energy needed to get you through that next day of socializing or travel.

 

4. Stick to a routine 

Perhaps most importantly, hold on to your routine for dear life – on holidays, vacations, and even on the weekends. Eat the same foods when you can, and when you travel bring your favorite sweats or comfy socks – anything that makes you feel yourself and grounded on the outside will help to do the same to your mind on the inside. I promise.

 

Any thoughts on maintaining energy when you're out of your element? It's not easy for any of us, and especially not for introverts. Tips and shared experiences are always welcome!